Sunday, December 29, 2019

More on Giving and Receiving, Taking and Losing


One Friday long ago I came home from work to find glass from my back door scattered across the patio and the door standing open.  I didn’t go inside, because someone could still be there, looking (unsuccessfully) for a cache of things he could pawn; instead, I went across the street to a neighbor’s house to call the police.

After declaring the house safe, they left and I went inside to check on my little Shadow, a little schnauzer/terrier, and found her safe but trembling in fear under a bureau. Somehow in desperation, she had scrambled under a six-inch space she was barely able to squeeze out of, now that she was safe. She remained traumatized for a week and trembled at the smallest unusual sound.

When I took stock, I found nothing missing that affected my daily life—even my new microwave, a modest TV and record player were undisturbed. Nothing that I’d have to replace for daily living--all that was missing was my mother’s wedding ring, pearl and silver earrings my dad had brought me from Japan, a solitaire ring from my father-in-law and my 4th anniversary gift, a Navaho turquoise bracelet (that had outlasted the marriage). And I needed a carpenter to repair the door frame—when the thief kicked in the dead-bolted door, the lock didn’t give way--the door frame and a bit of wall were ripped too. One might think that now living alone for the first time ever, I might be especially fearful, knowing how easily someone could break in, but God’s presence was there, day or night always.

When my aunt asked what I’d lost, she became very emotional about the terrible loss of Mother’s ring so I quickly terminated the call. I couldn’t sink to helplessness or fear. A deacon in my church, owner of a construction company, came Friday evening to nail the door shut and repaired it Saturday. I was safe and the repair wasn’t a huge expense. I suddenly saw this episode in a new light.

Whenever my aunt began to moan, trying to get me to grieve along with her, I explained  that since I had been divorced, sold “our house” and bought a smaller one, I had gratefully told God that I considered the house and everything in it His and I was happily His steward in residence.  The few things taken from this home left in a thief’s pants pocket. They weren’t mine so I would not grieve for the loss; they were God’s. Wherever they now were, they were still His. And I wouldn’t stand in the shoes of that thief for riches far beyond their value, when God came to collect what was His!

In the years since then, at various times God brought me someone needing a place to stay for a weekend or a few months and He provided them refuge in His house and His peace filled it. Since I became unable to live alone, the proceeds of the sale still provide for me. My aunt? I regret she never learned what I had learned—the peace of knowing God truly can be trusted for life before Heaven! After her husband died, she kept his closet intact; she refused to give away his suits to a charity where "some dirty bum would wear her husband’s clothes until they fell away in dirty rags". And she slept fearfully the rest of her life, unaware that God was keeping her safe.


Tuesday, December 24, 2019

The Art of Giving

                                                

     Several decades ago, when my girls were small and eagerly awaiting Santa’s arrival, I hit on a plan to enlist their help in cleaning their closet and toybox and train them in the valuable art of giving. After all, if Santa Claus peeked into their room and saw the mountain of toys, where would he leave their new ones? Next door? Across the street? Would their stockings be empty Christmas morning because Saint Nicholas would believe they were greedy, having all those toys and still wanting more? 

     So around Thanksgiving we began the family tradition of sorting through toys and clothes they had outgrown or grown tired of, but were still attractive enough to make someone else a little happier on the holiday. Giving away a beloved toy is a hard sell, even with the trade-off of knowing there are more to come very soon, but the girls enthusiastically approached this project without tears--until they saw those long-forgotten toys so attractively perched in cartons leaving the house. And I got a cleaner, clutter-free house for the holidays. 

     Through encouraging my children to learn to enjoy giving happiness away, I learned a thing or two also, lessons that became embedded in my heart. It all relates somehow to the Biblical  promise that His children shall become as vessels of living water, which didn’t sound all that significant to me until I heard a preacher describe the difference in the quality of water in a flowing river and a stagnant, smelly  pool, dammed up, no longer releasing any water. 

     Water flowing freely is purified as it travels and shares itself all along the riverbed, whereas by holding onto what it has, the stagnant pool deteriorates and its water becomes polluted and no longer a blessing.

     My goal in giving is not to receive more for myself, but to learn to become a conduit, readily sharing what is given to me. The benefit to recipient and giver is clear and ongoing as each one shares, as illustrated in the movie a few years ago Pay It Forward.

     Although I give with an open hand; God gives with both hands and my hand is still open to receive and share again. Whether or not the gift is appreciated, giving blesses me. Whether the recipient  receives a blessing with my gift is not my responsibility; it depends on  the openness of his heart to be a blessing to others. 

     After thinking about the principles involved, I concluded this is a fairly effective way of dealing with life: discard those things, habits and attitudes that ill serve you and make room for growth and blessings in return.














Sunday, December 1, 2019

Food for Thought


“Food for thought" is no substitute for the real thing”

On the Cooking TV Network I heard someone say that this morning.  This was his humorous promotion of the upcoming cooking show. But as I listened to his words, I realized His words could lead to a more important truth, depending on what “the real thing” meant.

In the world, “Eat, drink and be merry” is a common call. No thought required for that. Yet thought is extremely important for long, productive, satisfying life: “Look before you leap” means “think before you act” and doing so can save a lot of missteps which lead to disaster.  

What we think casts a longer shadow on our lives than what we eat and is therefore more important.

 

         Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever 
         is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable--if anything is excellent or praiseworthy--    
        think about such things.                  Philippians 4:8















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